The First-Time Mom Who Can’t Get a Day Off from Work


In our new collection Pregnancy Diaries, we ask anticipating girls to jot down each pregnancy-related element of their lives for every week. (Special due to New York magazine and Refinery29 for the inspo.) Work-related conundrums, struggles with IVF, and an entire lot of nausea, forward. This week, we’ve a 34-year-old movie post-producer and first-time mother residing in Chelsea along with her husband. She was on the tablet for eight years and bought pregnant inside 5 months of attempting. She’s 20 weeks alongside.

Day 1

7 a.m. – I get up hungry, like I do each morning. I gulp down an enormous glass of water and bounce into the bathe.

8 a.m. – Eat a fast breakfast of banana bread and a clementine (I often HATE something within the orange household however been craving it ever since I bought pregnant.) I lengthy for a giant, scorching, steaming cup of espresso. Man, I miss espresso. Even although my physician stated I can have 12 ounces of caffeine day by day, I’m solely permitting myself 12 ounces every week. It’s TOUGH.

12 p.m. – Expecting a name from my OBGYN concerning the genetic blood textual content we took final week. Anxious to know if our child is wholesome, and likewise, the gender!

12:30 p.m. – OBGYN calls, proper on schedule. They inform me the whole lot is okay with the newborn, and requested if I wish to know the gender. Um, YES. Nurse on the road tells me we’re having a lady! I instantly name my husband with the information, in tears. We’re over the moon!

3 p.m. – My shoppers are retaining me busy, so I can solely sit to eat lunch now. I packed myself my very own lunch right this moment, which may be very uncommon: a big salad loaded with veggies, a peach, a yogurt, and a slice of banana bread. I remorse not together with any protein in my salad. I’ll make up for it at dinner.

8 p.m. – FINALLY go away work, however leaving at 8 p.m. is regular. I’m so grateful I bought my Blue Apron meals service cargo for the week so I don’t have to fret about what to make for dinner. My husband has already began dinner prep: Roasted hen with olives and a facet tomato couscous.

9 p.m. – Dinner, performed. Dishes, performed. Time to attempt to loosen up… with some Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. Phone rings and it’s work. Damn—I’ve to get this.

Day 2

6 a.m. – Alarm rings to remind me to go to the gymnasium. I’m having a tough time waking up so I hit snooze.

12 p.m. – Some shoppers of mine are giving me a tough time and wish to are available in right this moment. Hoping they accomplish that sooner slightly than later. I don’t need it to be a late evening.

3 p.m. – My shoppers confirmed they wish to are available in at 8:30 tonight…nice.

6 p.m. – Knowing that I’ve to remain at work late, I rapidly eat my leftover lunch of hummus, falafel, and beets. I don’t really feel glad or that I made a very good well being selection, however I’ve to eat one thing. Who is aware of after I’ll eat subsequent.

9 p.m. – Clients arrive 30 minutes late. I used to be proper about it being a protracted evening.

5 a.m. – Still. At. Work. Clients received’t go away till they’re glad. Ran across the workplace doing injury management, whereas feeling extraordinarily responsible that Baby Girl is feeling my stress.

I don’t even make it to mattress and go out on the sofa.

Day 3

6 a.m. – Get woken up by a coworker’s telephone name. Can’t get again to sleep.

9 a.m. – Decide to get to work sooner than normal to ensure the whole lot is so as from the evening earlier than. Haven’t even had an opportunity to eat breakfast and I didn’t eat a wholesome dinner the evening earlier than. I fear that this will’t be good for Baby Girl and I’m beginning to really feel wired.

6 p.m. – My work day was certainly Stress City. I determine to take my mates up on their supply and meet them for dinner at a Mexican restaurant. It was good to have some “girl time.” As they go a pitcher of margarita, I sip on some raspberry agua fresca.

9 p.m. – I get dwelling and I’m all of a sudden hit with excessive exhaustion. I don’t even make it to mattress and go out on the sofa.

1 a.m. – I get up from a horrible work-related nightmare and understand I forgot to ship an e-mail out right this moment. I take out my laptop and begin performing some work. Might as effectively get a head begin to my day, proper?

It’s a beautiful day so we determine to stroll there. It was a pleasant stroll however I needed to cease 3 times alongside the way in which to pee.

Day 4

9 a.m. – Heard of a pattern sale I’ve been dying to go to, so I determine to cease by earlier than heading to work. I informed myself to not purchase a lot, however I go away with 3 pairs of sneakers and a bag. Yikes. I persuade myself that I deserve these sneakers and bag—I’m at present rising a human in any case!

12 p.m. – It’s a coworker’s birthday so we determine to exit to lunch. I haven’t had an actual lunch break in a very long time. It was good to not stress about emails and shoppers for a bit.

3 p.m. – I begin to really feel snacky. I seize pretzels from the workplace kitchen however it’s not holding me over. I make my technique to the well being meals retailer down the road and purchase some tumeric almonds and watermelon.

7 p.m.– I’m tremendous exhausted and wish to get dwelling, so I slip out of the workplace earlier than anybody notices I’m gone. Once there, my husband is already making ready dinner. He tells me to sit down, loosen up, and let him deal with cooking tonight. Damn – How did I get so fortunate?

8 p.m. –I get a name from my mother. She’s tremendous enthusiastic about her future granddaughter and is already planning out her month-to-month visits to New York. I’m wishing she lived nearer in order that we didn’t should plan issues out like this.

DAY 5:

9 a.m. – I determine to take a PTO day resulting from my 5 a.m. work evening this week. I make plans to fulfill a good friend for lunch.

1 p.m. – We meet up within the West Village. Even although I took a PTO, my telephone is blasting with emails and telephone calls. I’ve to excuse myself twice to reply some calls. This is NOT what a PTO day is meant to be like.

2 p.m. – My good friend appears aggravated by my lack consideration, so I supply to deal with her to some gelato on The Highline. It’s a beautiful day so we determine to stroll there. It was a pleasant stroll however I needed to cease 3 times alongside the way in which to pee.

5 p.m. – The quantity of emails coming in are beginning to overwhelm me, so I instantly get on my laptop after I get dwelling. I get a very good 2 hours of labor in.

7 p.m.  – Husband will get dwelling and surprises me with a Date Night. We attempt to have as many date nights as we will since we really feel like we by no means see one another resulting from our work schedules and it’ll in all probability worsen as soon as Baby Girl arrives. We get pleasure from a pleasant dinner at an Italian restaurant and catch a Comedy Show.

11 p.m. – When we get dwelling, we’re not in the slightest degree drained, so we squeeze in some episodes of the outdated HBO present “Big Love.” We ultimately find yourself passing out on the sofa.

I’ve gained 4 kilos since I first discovered I used to be pregnant again in January. Is that too little? Too a lot? I take a psychological observe to Google that later.

Day 6

10 a.m. – I sleep in, and instantly head to the kitchen to make my 1 weekly 12-oz.cup of caffeine. I get pleasure from it a bit an excessive amount of. I’ve that with a bagel and almond butter topped with strawberries.

1 p.m. – I’ve been lacking my Saturday afternoon Pilates courses so I’m decided to make the category right this moment. It felt SO good.

3 p.m. – The hubs and I’ve a child registry appointment, which we’re overly enthusiastic about. The “registry specialist” is tremendous useful however I begin feeling overwhelmed. Do we actually want a child wipes hotter? …No, I feel we’ll go on the newborn meals blender…I don’t want a cup holder on my stroller, do I?

4 p.m. – While wanting on the breast pump and breast pump equipment, I all of a sudden understand I’ve misplaced my husband. He exhibits up 20 minutes later with a Star Wars child guide, saying he simply HAD to purchase it for Baby Girl. I can inform he’s tremendous enthusiastic about turning into a dad that I’m not as overwhelmed as earlier than.

8 p.m. – After a dinner of tacos per my request, we make it an early evening, become PJs, and watch extra episodes of Big Love.


Day 7

9 a.m. – I really feel formidable so I’m going to the gymnasium once more – Second day in a row! I haven’t weighed myself since my prenatal appointment 8 weeks in the past, so I reluctantly accomplish that after my exercise. I’ve gained 4 kilos since I first discovered I used to be pregnant again in January. Is that too little? Too a lot? I take a psychological observe to Google that later.

12 p.m. – I’m stuffed with vitality, so after a lunch of leftover salmon, brown rice, and spinach, I begin to clear my residence from prime to backside. I then squeeze in some work. I at all times like to arrange for the week forward.

4 p.m. – The hubs and I simply wish to spend the remainder of the night vegging out in entrance of the TV. We select a film off Netflix and make popcorn.

8 p.m. – The popcorn fills us up so we don’t even take into consideration dinner till now. We determine to order in some Thai meals and watch one other film.

1 a.m. – I’m having the toughest time falling asleep resulting from my normal Sunday evening work jitters. I’m hoping this coming week will not be as dangerous because the final 1. Baby Girl and I can’t deal with extra stress.

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